Once you get settled into married life (and then especially into parenthood), admittedly life can become pretty mundane if you’re not careful!
With the demands of work, kids’ activities and an overall routine schedule, it’s often the relationship with our spouse that suffers the most. Over time, that cute guy you fell head over heels in love with and used to confide in about every little thing can seem less familiar to you than your old college roommate! (5 Signs your Spouse is your Roommate)
I don’t know about you ladies, but I need for my spouse and I to remain best friends! It takes hard work and there have definitely been times when my spouse and I have felt disconnected in our marriage, but we have a few things we now strive to do to maintain our closeness not only as a happily married couple but as BFF’s as well 🙂
- Create Traditions
Every single year, Travis and I throw a huge Memorial Day Cookout! Of course, our guests think it’s all about them and our personal way of celebrating the holiday and jump-starting the summer. While this is true, we largely just love coming together and collaborating on something we’re both very passionate about, which is entertaining guests and creating memories for our family and friends.
You know I’m a budget-nista so of course your tradition does not have to be a large party. It can include something as simple as taking a drive to a quaint location across town on a special day each year to a meaningful location! Whatever it is, make sure it’s something you both love and can look forward to, together.
- We shower together at least once a week
This tip was taken from a page out of the Will and Jada book! It literally forces you to stop, enjoy each other in an intimate space and also gives you the opportunity to catch up on other activities you may have neglected in the past week 😉
- Date your spouse by any means necessary
We don’t have family members that live nearby so its tough to go out on a dinner date or a night on the town. However, dating your spouse is the most important component to maintaining your closeness, so we schedule lunch dates. It’s much simpler and cheaper too! The kids are already at school and daycare so there’s no need to secure a babysitter and most restaurants offer lunch specials!
- Disconnect from the world
We have one night of the week where we disconnect from the world. No bringing work home, no cell phones, kids in bed by 8 and whatever is not cleaned in the house will have to wait until the next day!
How do you maintain your closeness with your spouse? I would love to hear your tips!
